A mother of two

I haven't written many blog posts since I became pregnant with my second child. I think it was mainly due to the fact that I was a bit paranoid about anything happening to the baby prior to being born. The reason for my paranoia is due to a miscarriage we had a few months before. It was a painful experience that made me afraid of being happy too soon. I was cautious the whole pregnancy and also more tired and nauseous in the beginning. Everything wet really well in the end and I had our second son R on November 12th 2015. I can't believe it has been ten weeks already! He is such a sweetheart. So different from K but in a way so alike. 

K is very happy and proud to be an older brother but still doesn't know how to play with him just yet. He always does his best to help out, though. My heart melts when K cuddles little R... Even though life with two kids is a lot more tiring and stressful, they do fill every day with joy and love. 

Another bun in the oven

I haven't written in a long time as I only really had one thing to write about and that thing... I wanted to wait a bit with.the news is that K is becoming an older brother and D and myself parents for the second time. We are very happy and so far, things are going OK. The pregnancy has been very different compared to the one with K with morning sickness and being generally uncomfortable. Now, the worst has passed as I'm in the second trimester.

K doesn't quite understand yet that he will become an older brother. We have tried to explain to him that mummy has a baby in the belly but then he lifts his own t-shirt up and says he also has one in his belly :-) He still think it's a game we're playing. I guess he'll see on the big day!

K is walking

The feeling when you see your child take his first steps... Incredible. You feel happy, proud...amazed. He's now walking everywhere exploring, poking, examining all kinds of things. The ground, holes in the wall, dog hairs, flowers... No discrimination in what gets examined - disgusting or not. This is the time when we as parents get to do a lot of running and yelling - "no, don't put that in your mouth!", "don't touch that!", "stop licking the seats in the tube!" and "don't stick your hands in the toilet!" - in order to try and stop certain undesirable events from occurring. It's fun but quite tiring! Gotta go and put my runners on - to keep up with the little one. Heels? Forget it!

Back to work

Summer finally ended and we managed to squeeze in so many things right at the end of it: Christening of a friend's daughter in Istanbul, hen party and stag do in London two consecutive weekends, visitors from Spain and Sweden, wedding in Czech republic and K's christening in Mallorca.

The day after coming home, it was time for K to start settling in at nursery. I had been dreading this day for a long time and tried not to think about it too much. But the day came and he actually seemed to enjoy being there. It was such a huge relief to see him playing with a musical toy and enjoying himself while I was leaving the first day. The rest of the week went in a similar fashion. I can only say "thank god" for that because the following week I was back at work.

That brings us up to this week. It was a good week at work. I jumped right into a new role at work which is being the team leader of the team I used to work in. It felt good to come back in that way. I didn't worry too much about K which was good, and I quickly got back into the swing of things. I feel slightly overwhelmed about all the things I need to get done before Christmas though... But so far so good!

 K after landing in London coming from Mallorca

After K's first swin in the sea

 Grandma came over to cuddle with her grandchild

The hen party that I organised. Here after makeovers at Chanel 

 We also drove karts!

Mr.Frequent flyer on the plane from Istanbul His first tooth on its way out here but we didn't discover until the following day

So many things

My little boy is now 7 months and 2 weeks old. Since I last wrote he's learned how to do the Indian wo wo wo sound with a little help of course, he has 2 cute little teeth in his bottom jaw, and he had just started sleeping in his own room. I know I might be boring some people with these leaps of progress but I just find it amazing. It was never amazing when I heard friends' kids did all these things. It's amazing because it's my son, the little creature who couldn't do much besides eat, cry and poo a few months ago. Now he's showing his strong will through sounds and gestures, he has a sense of humour.  He loves to laugh and to make me and his daddy laugh and we just have so much fun together goofing around.

I love being a mum. With everything it includes. The joy, frustration, happiness and worries. The good outweighs the bad so many times over it's rediculous. I'm so thankful for my life. If there is such a thing as karma then I must have done something really good to deserve it.

My baby is almost 7 months old!

Yesterday me, K and D were out in the sunshine. We went for a walk and then we chilled for a bit in a hammock in our local park. So much love in a hammock!

K is growing so fast!

I can't believe how fast K is developing and learning new things! I feel it's almost unreal that he was tiny just 5 months ago. I'm trying to memorise all the things he could do and at what age but it's impossible. Maybe partially because I'm suffering from the so called 'nappy brain'and forget things quickly...

Now at 5 months he's such a funny little baby with a sense of humour. Not just laughing at silly things me and D do but also trying to make us laugh. It's so refreshing to hear him laugh and giggle.  The best sound ever. He loves to stand up. He's shown a great interest in standing up ever since he was a month and a half. Now he gets really frustrated if nobody helps him support his own weight on his little feet. I have a feeling that when he starts walking he will be a hurricane. Like his uncle P maybe? or is the restlessness something  from D  maybe? Interesting but I guess well find out later when he starts walking. Can't believe he is almost 6 months and we  will start weaning him on to solids soon! Looking forward to it although I know we'll have food all over the place. That's the beauty of doing this... it's hard work but just a single smile or giggle can make you forget about the hard stuff. Love is everywhere.

the most beautiful thing

the two loves of my life having a siesta

...and baby K is growing

K is now 4 months and 3 weeks. So...exactly one month since I last posted. We have had time to do many things since then. The biggest one was to go to Spain as a family. K used his Spanish passport for the first time and it went well. Some tears and screaming because he didn't want to sit down at take off or landing, but apart from that  it was quite pain free. Could have gone a lot worse. It was very nice to be in Spain for us to relax a bit and get some help from K's grandparents and aunties. They were almost fighting over who got to change his nappy. A nice change for us. Me and D even got to go out to a restaurant for the first time since K came to the world. It felt weird almost!

The weather could have been better, but the trip was nice regardless. We celebrated D's birthday with our friends and their babies. So different from previous years when nobody in the group of friends had kids. It was fun!

 K pulling daddy's hair in the grandparents' kitchen

 K sporting a red summer hat to protect him from the sun and trying on mummy's sunglasses

In the plane before take-off

Some pictures from our new home

 Baby K playing on daddy

 Baby K admiring the handsome baby on the other side of the wall

 Bear wrestling

 Chatting with mummy

 Us putting furniture together

Father and son playing video games together on the "sofa" while we're waiting for the real sofa to be delivered

Our baby K is now 3 months and 3 weeks old. He's laughing, shouting and using sounds to express what he wants. Such a big difference from just a month ago! He loves to be pulled up to his feet and be on his daddy when he walks around the flat. Life in our new home is different and we're still not quite unpacked yet, but we like it. The flat has got lots of light and K loves it. He keeps looking out the windows, not that he knows what he's looking at, but he likes it. We are so happy to have more space and light. 

Almost 10 weeks have passed

I can't believe that my little love is already 2 months and a half! Time has just gone by so fast. I love spending my days south him and he's growing st an incredible speed. He weighed 2.8kg when he was born. Now he weighs 5.8kg! More than double! He can also do so much more. He's not that little small lump that can only cry and poo anymore. He's got strong arms and legs and holds himself upright when you hold him. He laughs and smiles, coos and gurgles when you talk or sing to him. He's just amazing, my little boy. I can't believe how much he's changed our lives. Filled them with so much love: the best thing that has ever happened to us.

Forever missed. Never forgotten

It has been 3 years now since you were taken away from us. When it happened iy felt like time would stop completely as life felt impossible without you in it. But time passed and "normal life" began again, although it will never be as it was.

Since then so much has happened: big and small. P got married and I had a beautiful baby boy...

I really wish you were here so you could meet my son, your first grandchild. He looks like me when I was a baby. But I know you can see us from heaven... I love you forever and thank you for being the best dad in the world.

Being a mother

I love it. But it's not easy. Motherhood. You have so many sources of information and often, they say different things. "This is the best way to do it", "no do it this way", "I did it this way" and then the internet says a million different things and then your books say something else. In the end you find your own way that works for you, but it may take a bit longer.

But motherhood in general... is so awesome! I'm a mother. I find it almost unbelievable to say. Sounds unreal but it IS real. I have a son. The most beautiful little person on earth. Didn't know I had so much love in my heart until I had him. I can just look at him forever. In the very beginning I could just look at him and start crying because I felt so overwhelmed with love and also worry..."he is so perfect and deserves only the best in life. Am I enough? Can I give him everything he should have? Will I be a good enough mother?". I know in my heart I will be the best mother he can ever have as I will do everything possible for him to have a good life. And so will D. He is an excellent father. But we are both still learning and will keep on learning as long as we are parents - for the rest of our lives. The biggest learning experience you could ever have.

The only sad part I still carry with me in my heart is that my dear father never got to meet my son. He would have loved to be a grandfather. He was longing for it. Almost 3 years after his passing, here I am - a mother of a beautiful son. What D tells me is that my father lives inside us. In me, in my brother and in Kai, his genes are present. We can see things in each other that reminds us of him. That is how we should move on.

Today is Valentine's day. I will celebrate it by thinking of everyone I love and how to show them how much they mean to me.

The cutest thing in the world

...according to me

Little K is here!

This week was supposed to be my last week at work. Oh boy was I in for a surprise! I worked from home on Monday and was going to do the same on Tuesday but while in bed reading about giving birth, my water broke. We had to go straight to the hospital and confirm it and then we were given a time to come back in case I didn't go into active labour on my own within 24 hours.

I started getting painful contractions and had them all through Tuesday, but it wasn't enough to get me into active labour we found out in the hospital. So I got the hormone drip to get it started and by this stage I had already had the epidural - couldn't take more after 24 hours of painful contractions. A decision I don't regret! Finally I was able to sleep and D too as he had been up with me through each contraction masssging and soothing me. A few hours later, at noon,  we found out things were progressing in a good pace, just 3 more hours and we'd meet our son. Just after 2 hours I felt he was coming... He came out to greet us at 3:30pm on Wednesday the 16th of January - the happiest day of my life.

2012 was a special year

 The most important day of 2012 was when we got this piece of news

2012 was one of the most special years I have ever experienced. I was pregnant most of the year and it almost feels like I can't remember anything before that, looking back. It's like it's the only thing that matters now. The only thing I think about day in and day out. It makes me happy.

The first few months I felt like I was going to explode unless I told someone, but at the same time I felt scared in case things didn't go well. Family were told within the hour of us finding out ourselves, and close friends were told within a few weeks time.

At 3 months (July) we went to Majorca for holidays and told our closest friends there, and weren't we surprised when we were presented with the same news from D's closest friend (the one who did out matchmaking in Dublin) - they are expecting in the same week as us! We were all so happy about the baby boom that was happening within D's group of friends. 5 babies were born in 2012 and 4 more will be born in 2013 whereof 3 are due in the same week! It's almost like the group of friends planned this all together!

It wasn't until the 5th month I felt like I could start enjoying the pregnancy and worry less. I also started feeling the movements of the little one. It was the coolest thing ever. I also started telling colleagues at work as my bump was quite small during this time as well. Everyone has been very supportive and kind at work as well. Around this time I also found out that another colleague of mine was pregnant. So happy for her and her other half as well. For them it's the second one. At this time we had the 2nd scan that confirmed we were expecting a boy and on this day D felt his kicks for the first time as well.

At 6-7 months, time just flew by. My bump was more evident but I still felt great. I was still going to the gym doing mild cardio and some lighter weights and feeling fine. In the beginning of October we went with D's family to Bilbao and the north of Spain. It was my first time there and we were so lucky with the weather. It was amazing. At the end of the month it was time for another first for me: Granada. We travelled there with two other couple of friends. There we weren't so lucky with the weather but we had fun nonetheless and ate so many tapas!

Boom! 8 months! I can't even remember how we got here. We had some friends over in London that made time fly by as well. My bump has started to affect me now. I can really feel how my centre of gravity has shifted. I was expecting to feel this much sooner in the pregnancy but it didn't happen until now. Probably also because I was doing back strengthening exercises in the gym and ate very well - and genetics maybe. Now my feet swell up if I stand for too long and my back aches. Getting tired sooner and having a big appetite are changes that I have felt. For Xmas my mum came over to London as i was not able to travel any more. Me, mum and D had a quiet but very cosy Xmas together. Mum and me went for some shopping and afternoon tea and we went for plenty of walks as well. On boxing day my mum went back to Sweden and me and D had 2 quiet days at home before D's family arrived in time for the new year's celebrations. As they were 5 coming over, it was impossible for us all to stay in one flat and fortunately my close friend M said we could use her flat while she was celebrating Xmas and New Year's in Sweden. She lives close by so it was perfect for us. After a few intense days of shopping with D's family- they absolutely LOVE the London sale shopping, we were both exhausted but happy. We had a good time. However, the energy we spent had to be recuperated and I caught a stubborn cold as soon as they had left.

Pictures by Victor Tse Photography

So here I am now in 2013 on the sofa trying to recover myself from the cold without medicines and just rest. 2012 was such a special year but 2013 will be even more special as our 2 -person family will expand to a 3 -person family. We couldn't be happier!

The first presents from us

Today we bought the first pieces if clothing from us to our little one. We have already received clothes from family and friends but we hadn't bought anything like that ourselves. Today we found an adorable pair of socks that I just couldn't resist buying... so cute and small! Also perfect for going home from the hospital.

More movements...

Now I'm 29 weeks pregnant. The movements of the little one have changed as he's growing and has less space to move. Now I feel more powerful but slower movements as well. Maybe a few hiccups now and then. He also reacts when I drink something warm or really cold, trying to get away from it. Such an amazing experience!

Is it... an alien?!!

I recorded this one with my mobile last week (week 25 of the pregnancy) in the evening. D was already fast asleep but our little one was wide awake. Very active. But as many times before - when I start recording, he stops. This one was my third attempt and originally it was a clip of 2 minutes! The only recorded movement was in this time frame of 15 seconds. What a little cheeky monkey! Just like his daddy.

Time flies when you're having fun

Picture from Santander, Spain earlier this month

Time goes by so quickly and sometimes... so slowly... I'm 25 weeks pregnant now, which is almost 6 months!! The little boy is growing fast and moving a lot! Instead of just kicks and elbows I have started feeling how he rolls around as well. I kind of felt like a washing machine the other day! Week by week I feel how I expand and my bump is looking more and more like a "proper bump" instead of a beer belly. People on the bus now give me their seat - sometimes. Not always. Apparently I'm carrying quite small as people keep getting surprised that I'm 6 months along.

The month of October is a bit about discovering other parts of Spain. In the beginning of this month me and D went with his family to the north of Spain. My first time. First to Bilbao for 2 days and then passing through Santander and other picturesque villages. We had a lovely time there and the weather was fantastic. It couldn't have been better.

At the end of the month - next week - we are going to the south of Spain with some friends. A&A and M&J. Really looking forward to it! Although this trip will probably be different from what I had imagined when we bought the tickets... as I wasn't pregnant then. I guess it is only wine part I won't be able to do and I might get tired quicker than the others, but equally - I should be fine. I could be the designated driver if needed!

The baby saga continues...